For centuries, many cultures have believed that there are emotional networks between a mother and her unborn child. This is why women have been encouraged to keep their minds and bodies pure during pregnancy. The latest research in prenatal psychology supports this belief. A baby in the womb not only hears what is happening outside, but also shares its mother’s feelings 1 . Pregnancy is a great opportunity for you to begin communicating and building a relationship with your baby before they are even born.
You know that... As early as the tenth week of pregnancy, the baby in the womb responds to your touch. If you press on your belly, it will start to move and pull away from the point of pressure without you feeling its movements.
Talk, sing and read
Your baby will always listen to you with pleasure. Your voice calms him down, helps him build a connection between you, including feelings of safety and security. Therefore, talk to him as much as possible, about anything, such as what you are doing right now, how you feel or how you are looking forward to his arrival. Sing him your favorite songs, nursery rhymes or whatever you come up with yourself. Even if you don't feel strong in singing, your baby will respond positively to your voice. You can also read to him. He will surely enjoy listening to a nice story or fairy tale.
With your voice, you give yourself and your baby a chance to tune in to each other. You can also involve your partner and children in this process. This way, your baby will get to know all the family members and their voices, which he can trust and recognize even after birth.
You know that... Is a baby's hearing developed before the 23rd week of life? During this period, he can respond to external sound stimuli. Scientists believe that at five to six months he is aware of what is happening in the outside world and also responds to these stimuli. For example, rock music excites a baby in the womb. When listening to it, he kicks violently. Classical music has the opposite effect, it has a calming effect.
Take your time.
Find a quiet moment for yourself. Think about your baby and how you can become a mindful parent. Visualize what it will be like to see your son or daughter for the first time. Think about the moments you will share together.
From the beginning of your pregnancy, take time to relax and get to know your baby. This will help you strengthen your bond and relationship. When you are relaxed, your body releases the hormone oxytocin 2 , which makes you and your baby feel good.
You know that... Your partner also has “feel-good” hormones. You can share daydreaming about your baby together. It’s a wonderful opportunity to relax and bond even more with your little one.
Tune in to your baby's movement
- Are your baby's movements more active at certain times of day?
- When is your child the calmest?
- Do you know what and who your child reacts to the most?
Let your baby know that you are thinking of him and that you are protecting him. When he kicks and moves, touch the spot where you feel his movements. He may respond with more kicks and movements, showing that he knows you are nearby.
You know that... Can an unborn six-month-old baby move its body in rhythm with its mother's speech? It learns to associate sounds with feelings.
Gently touch, stroke, or massage your belly
Babies respond to touch much more intensely than to spoken words. Gently touching or stroking your growing belly is a gentle and intimate way to connect with your baby and show them love.
Perhaps the most amazing benefit of prenatal massage is the stimulation of the release of the aforementioned hormone oxytocin. When you massage your belly during pregnancy, you are actually bonding with your baby by exchanging this amazing hormone. Research by developmental neuroscientist Ruth Feldman 3 has shown that oxytocin levels during pregnancy predict the quality of the bond between mother and child after birth.
You know that... Oxytocin reduces stress hormone levels. Tummy massage can help you and your baby feel calm during difficult times, putting you on the path to emotional balance.
Listen to music
Music has been shown to play a significant role in brain development before birth. Listening to it has a relaxing and uplifting effect. Choose music that both you and your baby will find relaxing – classical melodies, soothing, pleasant tones and soft sounds will induce feelings of happiness and peace. When your baby is born, you can soothe him with the music he often heard in the womb.
You know that... A lullaby will calm your child down because it will slow down their heartbeat and allow for calmer, deeper breathing?
Start a parenting journal
Leave your child a keepsake in the form of parenting journal . It is a great tool for developing mindfulness. Write down your thoughts, observations, experiences, experiences and wishes. You can add ultrasound images, photos and other artifacts from each trimester. The journal is an excellent booster of your relationship with your child. It also relieves stress and helps you keep track of your pregnancy.
Resources:
1. https://www.netmums.com/pregnancy/amazing-facts-about-your-unborn-baby/9-he-can-smell-the-same-things-you-can
2. https://www.wikiskripta.eu/w/Oxytocin
3. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28813252/